안녕 오랜만이야! HI IT’S BEEN A LONG TIME (smiles shameless)

It has been a hot minute and a long block on these fingers typing away as I write this, I had started this blog at the end of 2019 ironically, I write again at the end of 2020 I seem to have an issue with consistency I try really (insert puppy eyes here) the heavens must be smirking at me for my audacity, must shamelessly admit my audacity is limitless at this point.

You see much like everyone I claimed this year to be the one, the one where I rise like a phoenix from the ashes I left behind as all previous versions of me trembled with the flame of determination I set a light to them, good news is am not yet a phoenix that would truly be hilarious to witness, imagine a glass wearing phoenix, kills the whole point of being a mystical creature, anyways I digress.  Polite reminder to read this with a British accent of a bald headed , potbellied white like snow British man to be exact.

Forgive me I am blessed with the attention span of a goldfish the above polite reminder is to humor myself so thank you for complying, now back to what I really intended to address through this post ACCEPTING THE CHANGE there was no need to write it in upper class, but it just felt more hmmm what’s the word “demanding” again sorry for the interlude!

 The one lesson this year has taught us is to really change course of what we had plotted our lives would be this year, whether we intended to travel, work, marry, learn or so much as just enjoy a calm peaceful year we have ended up doing it differently thanks to COVID-19 if you ask me truly more audacious than a nine tailed fox marrying a human :-D.  to be honest we all are still trying to find a way around these changes, some of us maybe starting, in the middle of or reaching the end of a fight to maintain what little we knew of normalcy, reality is we will never go back to what normalcy entailed.

There are cards this life throws at you that can never be played in any game we know because they are the settings of the actual game, they will not change the course of what is meant to be nor divert you from what you are destined to become, these cards are your date of birth, death and most importantly your course through this world. Your date of birth and death are fixed dates much like that assignment you need to turn in but so graciously been procrastinating on and even though the assignment is flexible depending on what type of lecturer the heavens have blessed you with the former two are unchangeable.

This bring me to, what we must do is to live in this world with a purpose that is as flexible and as strong as water. Why water you may ask? It can break walls with time, floods villages, take form of whatever you store it in and douse a fire in essence the only element in this world that accompanies all other elements. Finding a purpose that adapts to the unchangeable.

This year we all sailed a boat into the ocean of 2020 and we all in some form were the captains of those boats, somehow and somewhere within this year we lost sight of our destinations because we let the winds dictate our direction, we also forgot to maintain the boat because the waves kept hitting the wooden surface of those boats. Where we are at right now is the middle of what seems like a calm ocean and in this moment, we are hoping to find a shore not our destination but a shore so we can get off this boat and not be in the ocean of 2020.

But,

Would it not be better to accept the change? this year has gone by faster than the blinks of our own eyes, what we know is history has changed for us both individually and as a world. The Pandora’s box has opened neither can we close nor fight what has been unleashed individually. so, lets accept it, accept that deep within us we are broken, fragile, within us lies vulnerability,within us lies strength, adaptability and courage to pick up and rebuild. To create safer spaces, grant access to those spaces and live a life of purpose so our hereafter can be a testament of what we worked hard for.

Let us find a shore but let us not build and forget the troubles the ocean held, lets rest at the shore but go back to the drawing board not because we went wrong rather because we could have done better.

P/S:  to you who may be struggling you are loved and cherished so don’t blow your own candle off just yet!

MIND OVER MATTER